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A very ordinary girl now middle-aged woman who thinks extraordinary thoughts in no particuliar order

A very ordinary girl now middle-aged woman who thinks extraordinary thoughts in no particular order. I’m thinking this may become a new feature on my blog. Perhaps I’ll touch on it once a week or twice a month or maybe even every other post. I can’t be pinned down right now or get caught up in the details, I have too much to say. I may start at the beginning, at the end or maybe even in the middle because I do things like that

 I thought my life was going to turn out differently, after all I have a destiny, a mission, a niche, but I haven’t found it just yet.   I know it’s out there, lurking in the shadows just waiting for the right moment to happen.

I couldn’t wait to grow up and find my purpose, that niche, my something but I had to get married to my high school sweet-heart, have kids and purchase my first house before I could pursue my dreams. Those things were too important to let get away and they had to get done before I was too set in my ways to get married, too old to have kids and before I had spent most of my adult life in a rented apartment.

While raising kids I knew that my something was out there but I was too busy, too fulfilled and way too brain-dead to go looking for it. It would have to wait and wait and wait.

How long should one wait? Should I start looking? Actually I think I’ve been looking all along but no niche.   I’ve always thought that when I was ready it would just happen.  All I had to do was wish for it and the answer would become, loud and clear, a flash of light, an epiphany, happiness.

I use to dream of a life in the big city. This life  included my loving family, the perfect house, a little fame and a lot of money. All made possible by my thriving career. I had my whole life ahead of me and plenty of time to achieve everything I’d hoped for. It was going to happen. I could feel it. I just had to get through the next few years of raising my family before it could happen. I raised my family and now when I look back I know that those were the most fulfilling years of my life. Perhaps thats why I put off the dream, my wish.

As the years passed my dreams and wishes got a lot smaller and a little closer to home.

I once wished for a beautiful white cat to fill my house with cozy charm, to make it feel homey and full. I envisioned her sitting in the front window when I arrived home in the evening, waiting for my company.

I wished and a couple of months later he showed up. He was different from what I envisioned, his fur was short with tan patches and he was absent a tail. I welcomed him into my home anyway but he didn’t like the indoors. he preferred the porch to my cozy office.  So now when I arrive home I find him waiting  not on my window sil but waiting all the same. By the way he brought friends-I feed them too.

 I wished for more children and I got a grandchild. Grandchildren are God’s greatest work and I never tire of their company. I’m not your typical grandma. I don’t bake. I can barely cook and I wear jeans with holes in the knees.

A few years ago I wished for more time with my family and something happened at work that made it justified for me to quit. I never looked back because I was sure this was a sign and my special talents were about to emerge. That was two and a half years ago. I’ve tried on a few hats since then but nothing fits. Someone once said, “I think you just don’t like to work” not true. I just want to feel passionate about what I’m doing, be good at it and make a living while doing it. 

Not all my wishes come true. I’ve wished for something I enjoyed, loved, something I was really good at.  It had to be a career where I could make a living while doing it. Something all my own. Nothing happened. I’m afraid it may take a little work on my part to find it, patience and focus, things I’m not very good at. I have the attention span of a three-year old child after she has consumed an entire box of cookies, chocolate chip of course.

I’m not whinning and I’m certainly not ungrateful for all the wonderful things in my life. I’m just wondering if maybe I’m going about this quest for success and completion all wrong. Perhaps…

This is just me thinking out loud  :)

xo-jj

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May 5, 2010 - Posted by | family woes, me, nasty habits | , , , , , , , , ,

3 Comments »

  1. Hey Junie girl. I stopped looking for a path decades ago and decided to just follow whatever trail popped up in front of me. Always a surprise, always filled with lots of joy and a few tears and absolutely no regrets. I couldn’t have planned it better and frankly I love the surprise of it all. Sea witch

    Comment by Sea Witch | May 6, 2010

  2. Or it could be whatever your destiny is, can be still on it’s way to you. That there are things you had to learn and feel and go through before it could come to you.

    Comment by Shell | May 6, 2010

  3. Awe, my little Junie Bug, THIS is life! You sound exactly like me, only the new, improved version, like my Alice! In fact, I just experienced the same thing with my safe job that paid well and kept me glued to my computer tooooooooo much. I quit with just a vague idea of a little ETSY shop centering around my Bad Alice and sewing. But I’m in no hurry. I literally spend the mornings in my yard, doing yoga by the pool after my 4 mile walk, looking looking looking at my flowers, sometimes just so darn grateful for all I have that I weep with JoY. I am breathing. I love that you said raising your family was the most fulfilling thing you ever did. I feel that way too. No words of wisdom…life unfolds in it’s own time…you’ll figure it out. Just breathe. I am ever so happy that I met you, my friend. **kisskiss**
    Happy Mombie’s Day!!! Deb

    Comment by Deborah | May 7, 2010


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