Javajune's Blog

Someone once said… “Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live.”

Love ’em or Lose ’em

Please welcome Nan to the sofa.

I am a complete user when it comes to relationships. My boyfriend is a really great guy and he treats me like a queen. The sex is too good for words. My problem is that I’m not in love with him. I know he loves me because he has told me so on several occasions and he is now talking about marriage. I should tell him how I feel but I don’t want to lose him. I can’t see myself ever considering marriage with him but I don’t want to be alone either. We have a great time together and he really fits into my life right now. He fits in but he’s not the one. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with someone that I’m not passionately in love with. It just wouldn’t last. I want to find a guy that makes my heart beat faster and someone I can’t stop thinking about. He’s not it. I want to keep our relationship the way it is until I find the one. This is selfish-yes-but it is my life.

Junie: I understand how you feel but you do need to be honest with him. Did you ever consider that this relationship may be getting in the way of finding Mr. Right?


January 19, 2009 - Posted by | confessions, Hello Miss Manners, lovers, secrets | , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,


  1. nan, i completely understand what you’re saying…there’s mr right, and then there’s mr right now…is that it? a lot of this is going to happen when you’re younger…and that’s perfectly fine. But, like jj says, please be honest about it! Truly, you’ll feel better and not like a user when you do that!

    Comment by libby | January 19, 2009

  2. I really think you need to stick with playing the field to keep your options open. Being involved won’t help you meet the right guy. I think you need to do more dating and stuff. The right guy will surface for you.

    Comment by Ricardo | January 19, 2009

  3. Yes, Libby honesty is usually the best way to go. Like Ricardo said maybe Nan should just play the field for a while.

    Comment by javajune | January 20, 2009

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